Hello everyone! I hope everyone is enjoying October so far. We are about two weeks in and it just seems that time is flying by! This month, this year..life. Sometimes it’s just overwhelming. As someone who gets down in the dumps fairly easily, I wanted to share some things that make certain situations a bit easier to deal with.
1. Feeling down about your body. This is probably the one that I silently struggle with the most. Over the past year I have gained more weight than I would have ever thought I could. I weigh more now than I ever have in my life. It’s uncomfortable and discouraging to recognize that. Especially because I don’t feel horribly unhealthy. I could run a mile if I wanted to, I don’t get tired easily, and I feel fine. What gets me down is the scale, or seeing my reflection in a very unflattering window.
My best advice for dealing with shaming your own body is to not shame it. It’s harder than it sounds, I know, because I struggle with it daily. Sometimes I have to literally turn away from the reflection for fear of crying over my body. So I’ve learned to replace those thoughts in my head with more positive ones. I, personally, love Pinterest quotes, so I tend to pick one or two and remind myself a few times. It might sound silly, but at the very least, you will de distracted enough to not think about it.
Another thing that really helps is to put on an outfit that makes you feel your best. Then you can go out with friends or just take some amazing selfies. You need to remember that you are beautiful, even if you don’t feel it all the time. Body image is such a complicated thing because everyone has different perceptions of what a body should look like. What matters is that you are taking care of yourself. If that’s the case, why should it matter your size? I promise you that it doesn’t define your beauty.
2. Feeling stressed about school and/or work. I’m a full time online student, which makes life a bit easier on me. I have due dates twice a week, and as long as I meet those then it doesn’t matter when I get what done. But I did go the physical college route before, obviously I didn’t enjoy it, and I understand how stressful it all can get. I still get stressed while working from home.
The number one piece of advice I can give you is to take breaks. I know that I will sit down and try to complete all my work at once, and I just make myself miserable and tired. Accomplish a task and then grab a snack, take on another task then go for a walk. Pace yourself and it will be easier.
Also, make lists. They are the most reassuring thing I can think of. You can make sure everything you have to accomplish is right in front of you, you can prioritize it, and then nothing feels better than watching the list get smaller as you cross things out.
3. Feeling hopeless when it comes to money. I’m 25 and my boyfriend and I currently live in my mother’s basement. Do we have to? No. We had a wonderful apartment that my dad paid half the rent on (though some of the time he paid all the rent). We worked when we wanted and made enough money to get by. We were fine. But we wanted to do things on our own. We wanted a bigger city with better opportunities, so we moved.
Can I say this was the best decision? Not yet. We are broke af. We had to get new jobs (we are servers) which we did quickly. But it takes time to train and then takes more time to build up to the money-making shifts. We are stressed. We feel like we made the wrong decision sometimes because life got harder. But we are doing it.
I can’t speak for everyone. I don’t think I will ever in my life have to experience begging for money or living in my car. I’m blessed beyond measure and I am thankful for that. But sometimes life gets really uncomfortable. It gets harder than you’re used to, and money tends to be a huge factor in that. We can’t buy what we want, or our problem is that all we buy is what we want and not what we need. Our expenses out way our cost of living and we spend more time counting pennies than dollar bills. It’s stressful and it sucks sometimes.But we work harder.
Honestly, this quote, as silly as it seems, has given me a lot of motivation. What is says to me is that I have to work my ass off until I get enough money to get my own place, then have money to decorate that place, then have money to go on a vacation, then have money left over in my savings, then I can play. It means that I need to bust my butt to make future me proud.
It may mean working long hours everyday or getting a second job. But I’ll thank myself in the future. So stay positive, and push as hard as you can to make life better for yourself down the road.
I really hope this helped at least someone one. These are the issues I struggle with most, and it’s important to always have a support system through it all. So if you need one, you’ve got me.
What tips do you have for these struggles or other struggles that you might have?